Let’s hear it for the Groom!
Uh oh, did I just unseat the bride from the matrimonial throne? No, of course not. Without a doubt the bride is, and will continue to be, the center of attention when it comes to weddings. That being said, I think it is high time to give some love to the groom. All too often, friends and family alike do not recognize and appreciate the challenging yet fulfilling commitment made by the groom when it comes to weddings. So…let’s take a walk down an unfamiliar path and look at some of the wedding experience from the grooms perspective. The journey begins with the decision to make a lifelong commitment and enter into a legal union with his loving partner. While it may not be obvious, this can be a very emotional time. Just like all major life decisions, there may be fear and uncertainty. Once the fears are dispelled, and the decision reached to offer a proposal to the irresistible bride to be, the groom still has other factors to consider. Do I need to get the blessing of the bride’s parents? How do I select the perfect ring? How, where and when will I propose? Will she say Yes? While these are only a few considerations prior to an actual proposal, each one takes on a significant level of importance for loving men who want the proposal of marriage to be perfect for their partners. Once these questions have been answered and the planning for the proposal is complete, it’s time to pop the question.
When the stars align and she says “yes”, the moment is unforgettable. What an unbelievable rush! She shares his commitment to the relationship and the groom is elated. The joy of being a part of that moment and sharing it with loved ones makes all of the grooms efforts to this point worthwhile. Soon after the jubilation of the engagement, the wedding planning begins. This phase of the journey poses new and interesting challenges for grooms. While the level of involvement in the planning of a wedding for the groom varies, he is usually an integral part of the planning process. Venues, photographers, caterers, makeup artists, musicians, florists, ring bearers, bridesmaids and groomsman are among the many choices that will be made in the planning process. Wise grooms, quickly learn that what matters most to their partners is that they are involved and supportive throughout the planning process no matter what their level of participation. Soon enough the big day arrives and all of the pieces of this complex puzzle come together and the two become one. While often unrecognized, it is important to remember and appreciate the vital role the groom played in bringing about the big day of joy and harmonious celebration. Despite the challenges faced by the groom, like a knight in shining armor he overcomes each and every obstacle. All achieved for the love of his lovely bride and the opportunity to lay eyes on her as she glides down the aisle adorned in her wedding dress, all aglow with joy. So, please join me in recognizing the groom, who’s love and determination sparked the day that began a new chapter in two wonderful lives.